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She Said Yes!

No blog posts since September! Damn the lack of inspiration and the reality of just being busy!

But, I do really have some interesting news to share with you wonderful, silent followers that is part of the reason (only part – I do realize I have a bit of a lazy, uninspired bone in my body a lot of times) for my prolonged absence. You ready?

This girl right here is getting married.


Whoa. That’s kinda cool to see typed out. And know that I’m talking about me.

In reality, I knew that he would ask one day, I just didn’t know when and had no idea he was planning to ask at a friend’s Halloween party on October 27th. My friend took a video of the events too and when watching from her side, compared to how I saw things play out before me, I had NO clue it was coming! He was facing her direction, pulled out the ring box, circled quickly to face me, and dropped down to one knee. I remember looking at him and thinking, “Oh he’s just goofing off” until I noticed the box and looked down to catch a glimpse of a delightfully dainty ring! I still had the thought in my head though and almost asked him if he was serious but had the cognizance not to because if he was! And he was! He must have been in my head actually because no sooner than I stopped myself from asking that silly question, he said to me, “Yes, I’m serious…” Poor guy thought I’d say no 😉 Of course I said yes and I remained my typical self and called him a shit head. Hah!

The only hitch was that the ring was too small. But, me being me, I forced that bad boy on my finger! Yeah that’s being a girl for you! Somehow I managed to get it off my finger a week later and we took it to get sized. It was a whole size too small! Yikes…definitely lucky I was able to get it off the finger. I also had to wait another week to get the ring back. Talk about torture when I’d already grown attached to it. But now, it’s sized correctly and feels as much a part of me as my own fingers do. I’ve never been able to really keep rings on without getting annoyed by them. This though…it’s ideal 🙂

So now, I get to be that girl that gets excited over wedding things and ideas. And it’s especially fun having a man that is willing to offer opinions and get involved to help out. We’ve finally decided to just have a backyard wedding at a friend’s house. It’s a large piece of property that could easily accommodate our guest list of around 50 people or so. They have a gorgeous pool and plenty of land space as well to set up other lawn games like cornhole and maybe even lawn twister 😉 Our goal is a simple ceremony. A secular ceremony. And with any luck, we’ll have Herb Silverman be the one to marry us. He’s a fairly prominent name in the atheist community and we couldn’t be more excited at the prospect!

Our goals overall (aside from making things official) are the pictures and for our families and friends to have fun in celebration of the event. It’s going to be casual. We might do a color theme but beyond that, maybe we’ll have some silk flowers to work with and centerpieces aren’t a priority. Sure, those are cool if you’re going for the looks of the ceremony, but since I don’t even want to be in an actual wedding dress, why bother? We want our guests to show up and have a good time, eat good food and drink good drink while we socialize and celebrate our commitment to one another. And that’s what we’re gonna do 🙂

Have you ever tried searching the internet for good SIMPLE wedding ideas? My primary saving grace has been Pinterest where I can find things I like and find do-it-yourself options for those things. Like, a puzzle piece guest book. Guest show up, sign the puzzle piece, we put together later and have something we can display instead of a guest book that never gets looked at again. Or, instead of tossing rice or blowing bubbles, we can have guests toss lavender or even make these wedding wands for them to wave if they so desire. I hear people like to do stuff like that. The lavender would be awesome though for me personally. It smells FANTASTIC and would be an awesome scent to remember the wedding by, in my opinion.

Anywho, we’re still in the planning stages with less than 6 months to go. But, that shouldn’t be a horrible thing considering it’s going to be pretty low-key with the focus on us. Stay tuned!

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Posted by on November 25, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Defining Love

This was originally written on February 27, 2012. Worthwhile I think 🙂


A friend asked me the following questions in one of our conversations and it actually surprised us both that I didn’t really have an answer. I have a need to know as much as I can about things but this is one I’ve left strictly as an emotion. Is it fair to try to define “love” with these parameters? Worth a look I suppose.

What does it mean to you? Well…first and foremost it’s an emotion and a precious one at that. With regard to personal relationships, it’s exclusive. It’s a strong emotion and one that deserves the utmost respect and consideration. It isn’t something that applies one day and is negated the next.

Does it have rules? What rules should it have other than to be completely honest? Love shouldn’t hurt the soul. Love enriches life. Love enriches the bond between two people. Anything that threatens that bond or that does not nourish the feeling…how can that be love?

Exclusions? Boundaries? Real love, positive love – no exclusions, no boundaries. Love is complete in its truest existence. Love needs the flexibility to traverse different areas of life. Love is supportive.

When is it most important? When isn’t love important? Much of our basis for existing is love and acceptance. So, it is important in every single day of our lives, both in sadness and in triumph.

When is it the strongest? When you show it and feel it. Acts of love and intimacy. Closeness.

Weakest? When it is rewarded with lies, distrust, lack of respect, harsh words, and hateful actions.

How do you feel when it hits you? I feel scared and elated, both at the same time. It’s almost a status change and that…well it does something to you!

How do you love someone? …I don’t know how to answer this…

Ultimately, I feel like each and every one of my answers …are so….lacking.

My logical side has met its emotional match – Love. You win. I can’t define you. I can’t put you into a little box and make you make sense. I just know that I am able to feel you. And when I do, you make me feel awesome. And when I feel you, I want to make the person you connect me with feel just as awesome. You make me feel capable of anything with that person. You make me search for ways to make them smile, to enrich their life, to support them and help them grow because I care about them and their well-being more than myself. You don’t deserve to be plopped into a box for scrutiny and comparison. You are a fluid, free-flowing emotion intent on happiness, enrichment, nourishment, and encouragement. And who am I to get in your way?

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Posted by on September 6, 2012 in Uncategorized


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Resurrected Poems

I’ve been ridiculously distracted from my blog as of late because of wonderful things happening in my personal life. I’m being spoiled rotten with affection by a man many thought did not exist! A childfree atheist, capable of intelligent conversation and the ability to make me laugh and smile who loves dogs and who has completely won me over. An amazing feat really considering I was perfectly fine remaining single 🙂

But anywho, enough of that! For now anyway 😉 I was reminded of poetry last night and since I’ve been in a bit of a blog slump here, I figured I’d share a couple of my other favorite poems that I wrote way back in the day when my brain was more adept at putting things together.


Your love rushes down me
Like a waterfall
Rippling over my curves
Leaving nothing dry.

 Puzzle Pieces

This puzzle only
Has two pieces.
Yet it’s not for children.
Only adults can play.
And two, not one,
Are required
To piece it together.
This puzzle has no box
And isn’t found
In any store.
Everywhere you go
You see potential
Puzzle pieces.
Yet only one
Will truly fit
The piece you hold.
One may go on for years
Testing out their puzzle pieces
While others find it
The very first time.
Your minds will connect,
Your eyes will lock,
Your lips will seal,
Your hearts at the same
Beat will pound
Your hands will mesh,
You’ll lean into him;
She’ll lean into you
And your bodies will
Meld right into the other’s
But most importantly
You will notice
The way he fits
Inside of you;
How perfectly you fit
Inside of her,
Completing the ultimate
Put-together puzzle.
One of Passion,
One of Sex,
One of Love,
One that never breaks
Once the connection is made.


Intertwined are our hearts
Always beating as one;
Joined at the soul
Never to be undone.

Yeah, I was a sucker for talking about love. I had some other darker poems, but I’ll save those for another day. Perhaps I can find some inspiration here and draft something new. The closest I’ve come to feeling the way I do right now was MANY MANY years ago…and I don’t think it was even this awesome 🙂

So, to another day my friends!


Posted by on May 30, 2012 in Uncategorized


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